Is it irrational of me to break up with my boyfriend of a year just because he doesn’t ever want to have children?
It’s no secret that I have always wanted kids. I’m a NANNY. I don’t want to be taking care of other peoples children for the rest of my life. My ideal life situation is to be a stay at home mom, cooking and cleaning all day while home schooling my spawn. The typical 1950’s idea of a perfect life for a woman. No lie. I’ve always dreamed of this.
I don’t believe in marriage which is a giant relief for most men, since most men are pussies who are frightened of commitment. So am I, so it works out wonderfully.
But the kid thing…….
That isn’t negotiable.
A deal breaker, if you would.
I entered my current relationship with the thought of if he is crazy enough about me, he will want me to be happy and I will be able to change his mind about having children someday. I’m slowly coming to the realization that I will never ever change his mind, just like I will never change my own. I don’t believe in tricking him into something he doesn’t want because I know that would cause a lot of distrust and anger among all parties. Plus, I’m not that type of girl.
This is my own fault. I knew from the beginning he didn’t want kids or marriage. I, like most (if not all) women, thought I could change his ideals with my stunning good looks and wit and charm. Its looking as if that isn’t enough.
So it boils down to this :
Do I want children so terribly that I am willing to break mine and his heart? Is it worth me throwing the happiest year of my life for the possibility of me never finding someone that wants what I want? Am I being irrational and stupid for even considering this?
Maybe I should be the one to change and to just accept the good that I have in my life. Maybe I should just come to the realization I am destined to take care of everyone elses children for the rest of my life.
Shut up and be happy with what you have, Megan.